I know we all have to be going through this at one point or another. Either it is about the space between motherhood of small dependent children that jump to preteens or from leaving home at say 18 to be off on your own. Not many talk about the space between. My experience right now is with the space between being a full-blown stay at home mom with kids and a husband dependent on me to getting a job and my kids being older to be able to do way more stuff on their own. You could be going from a working mom to stay at home mom also, or even the struggle of being a working person to a person working with kids. That space between where you feel like a baby deer trying to figure out your life, possibly hobbies and how to freaking get out there and be a person yourself without the identity of a mother with small children.
How did I start my transition into a person of my own and not a stay-at-home mom? Truthfully, I’m not sure I was kind of thrown in and one day I woke up and sank into myself and looked around seeing I need to change WITH this life. I need to flow with it and can’t be the same person as I was with little children or depended upon my spouse to be my only adult time after his hard day at work. In no way am I saying to not have a connection but absolutely try to crawl out of the parent cave and try to find your own light and purpose. I feel like writing has helped me navigate somethings along with walks outside and gardening. The only way you will find out is if you get out there and try whatever sparks your interests. I think my grip on life was too hard and it stopped flowing as if I was a rock in the water so big and trying to push the current the other way because it’s what I was used to instead of being a peddle taken to new phases of the river to flow and experience my rock life to the fullest.
Don’t be afraid of changes. I was and as I start to flow and release the grip I had on the life I thought I should live, I am being proven that what I had thought I was supposed to be is not who I am at all. So much influence growing up and so many opinions are put onto us from media or just family history teachings etc. Just sit still and dig deep and feel what you want or need and go out and do it. so often we are told to push down what we feel and “man up” or “you’re fine” but we have feelings, needs, drives, and emotions for reasons. All of those emotions and feelings are a steering wheel for our soul telling us who is or isn’t right for us, what doesn’t feel good and what does feel good! Try for a full day to let your soul steer and see where it may take you!